Are you in a hurry to commit? You have the ring ready and are going to propose to her soon? If your reason to jump into holy matrimony is any of the following then please revise your decision...
1. She is nice
Oh yes she is but then so are the fifteen hundred other girls you know. Don't jump into a relationship just because you think she is a 'nice' girl. Maybe you just find her nice because you do not know her well enough. Maybe after you commit to her you will find another girl who turns out to be 'nicer'? What will you do then? It's great you find her 'nice' but it will be wiser if you just hang around and wait a while longer till you find for 'the best' one.
2. We have known each other for long
It's really wonderful that that the girl you fell in love with when you were 15 is still around you. You are 25 and yeah it's been 10 years of 'togetherness' and all that mush. Wake up dude you don't need to propose to her just because of this. Logically this may be the next step but it is not the only step. Time is not 'the' factor to determine whether you should propose to her. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with her? Do you believe that you cannot spend your life without her? If you are not sure about these questions then hold your horses.
3. Mommy likes her
Yeah she is everything your mother dreamed of in a bahu. You father would be proud to have the talented girl as his daughter-in-law. But in the end it is you who has to stay with this girl all your life and not your parents. So think about it.
4. Her family is wonderful
Her family is great. You get along famously with her banker father and financial consultant brother. Her cute sister has already found a good brother in you. The girl's mom adores you and pampers you silly. You love this family. But this cannot be reason enough to propose to her. Just like the above mentioned point - it is you who has to stay with the girl forever. Her family may not be there all the time.
5. We have had sex!
You both have been physically intimate and have had a perfect time together between the sheets but that cannot and should not be the only reason you get married to her. Just because you slept together does not mean either of you are bound nor does it mean you are perfectly compatible to lead a married life. Marriage has a lot of responsibilities and till you find the girl who can share it all with you should wait. You are both adults and need to sort it out in a level-headed manner.
6. She earns a lot of money
If the green dollar or rupee sign is all that is visible in your eyes when you see her then you should review this. Just because she is rich should not be your reason to propose to her. Unless of course if you are a gigolo who had already sold himself and does not care about a lifetime of servitude.
7. All my friends are doing it
Yeah you are around 33 and most of your friends are already engaged or married. But that should not be a reason to propose. Trying to keep up with your friends and trying to fit in may land you in trouble. What if you just could not get along with this girl you propose to in a hurry now?
8. She wants me to
How long will this last if your only reason to get married is that she want you to? If you are not convinced at all about this, then the relationship will crumble away after a while. If she is the one forcing you into matrimony then you can be sure she will force you into doing things you will probably hate all your life! Steer clear, bro!
9. She is my best friend
Yes you are lucky that you have her in your life and she is the best friend that you have had. But your must remember that marriage is not just about friendship. It needs a lot more. You can make your wife your best friend but trying to make your best friend into your wife may not work that well.
10. I think I want to get married
Respect the institution of marriage. Jumping into matrimony and then in a few months jumping right out of it into a messy divorce is not the way to go. Being in a hurry to tie the knot may knot up your entire life in a bad way. So, wait till you find the right woman before you pop the question.
Sourse : Times of India