We've all been there: bagged a hot date, taken an hour - or whole afternoon - to prepare, and then become riddled with nerves. 'What do I talk about? Do I arrive fashionably late? And what do I DO?' Breathe... and don't panic. Instead, go for a smoother than smooth date with these tips from Zoosk and Jo Barnett, dating coach and author of How To Get A Date Now.
A COSMO GIRL'S TIPS TO HANDLING FIRST DATE NERVES
1. Get yourself into a positive place. Remind yourself of the great qualities you have and what you are personally bringing to the date. Connect to a place where you feel most alive and energised and bring that energy into the room with you. When you walk in, stand tall with your shoulders back and head up, looking confident.
2. Beat the nerves. If you're still nervous, imagine you're going to meet your best friend for a drink. Chat to your date as if he was just a friend.
3. Arrive early. This way, when your date turns up you're looking cool and relaxed. Break the ice with a little humour; throw in a compliment like, ‘you look handsome’ or ‘you have great eyes’. Look at his eyes while you say it.
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4. Make eye contact. Eye contact is really important as it breaks down barriers and encourages the other person to open up. Don’t get distracted by the rest of the room, and put away your phone.
5. Smile. Smiling is contagious and heart-warming. There's nothing nicer than a sexy smile to get the flirting off to a fine start.
6. Build rapport. Use mirroring to build a connection. This is where you subtly and occasionally copy the other person’s body language; if he's leaning in then you lean in. This works for both partners and will naturally get the two of you interested. However, don’t mirror every tiny movement - it will be too obvious.
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7. Talk and listen equally. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, especially when you have a willing listener. Make sure you're taking it in turns to talk and when it’s your turn to listen, give your full attention.
8. Stick to light topics. You want the date to be fun and enjoyable, so keep to topics that light you up. Safe things to talk about are hobbies, interests, travel, music, movies and where you live. Avoid talking about exes, religion, politics and any emotional baggage. Be bold and steer the conversation towards the fun topics - there's plenty of time for the heavy stuff later.
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